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My Letter to you: Rape and Jokes- I Am Not Laughing

I was scrolling down my facebook page a moment ago a came across a picture from a guy who is on my friend's list. This person is a club promoter and often posts pictures that are sometimes inappropriate and that is his prerogative. What I am about to say is MY prerogative.
This is the picture that he posted. This is the picture that pissed me off. The more I stare at this picture, the more disturbing it becomes. I didn't post his name because I don't want anybody else trying to tear him to shreds. This is the my letter to you. 

I have a MAJOR problem with this being that I am a SURVIVOR of rape. I was raped by a stranger in a park on the south side of Chicago. I was with my ex-boyfriend and he approached us at gun point. I tried to fight him off but he beat me in my face until I blacked out for a moment . The left side of my jaw was numb for 5 months. I was on 3 different medications for several months along with having to get tested regularly to be certain that I had not …


April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

Today is SASSU's Birthday. Today, my baby is 3 years strong. 
It is almost unbelievable to think that I have come this far. It is almost as if my rape never happened. I say that because of this: There was a time when I did not think that I would live to see my organization launch April 10, 2011 so  April 10, 2013 was the furthest from my mind. It is almost as if I've had a bad dream and now I've awaken. Let me be clear, I am not trying to make anyone feel bad about still healing from their experience with rape, molestation or sexual violence. I am just speaking what holds true for me. Today, I am still healing but I am so much better than I was some years ago. I do still have triggers, I do have moments of sadness but those moments pass and I am okay again. 
Today, my baby is 3 years strong. When I initially launched SASSU, I had NO CLUE as to what I was getting myself into. I knew that I wanted to heal. I knew that I wanted to spea…

I'm F'd UP!!!!!

This is a blog post I wrote a few weeks ago but decided not to post.....


The title of today's post gave me a laugh. I try not to blog about my dating experiences but this, I have to share. I knew that this would happen. I knew that I would experience someone taking my story and using it against me. I was prepared for that. 
I met a man last week and to my surprise our first date was AMAZING. We laughed and we shared intimate conversation. He shared his stories of love and loss and I shared my story, my story about my rape. 
Let me say this first: I knew after my rape that it would be hard to encounter someone who would be willing and open enough to offer me the support that I NEED. I knew that it would be hard to encounter a Being who would genuinely understand what it is like to go through what I had been through. I knew that with dating comes the risk of telling someone my story and them using it against me. 
Now, back to this man. Let me set it up for you.....